Imagine a family gathering where everyone feels seen, heard, and loved—exactly as they are. In the Philippines, where family bonds run deep and our culture celebrates connection, understanding LGBTQ+ identities can be a powerful way to strengthen those bonds.
Long before Western terms entered our vocabulary, our culture recognized gender diversity. From the spiritual babaylan who transcended gender boundaries to the vibrant bakla and tomboy identities that have long been part of our communities, Filipinos have a rich history of embracing human complexity.
This guide is more than just definitions. It’s a bridge—connecting generations, honoring our cultural heritage, and creating space for every family member to be their authentic self.
Understanding the Basics
LGBTQ+
An acronym that stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer/Questioning. The ‘+’ represents other identities including intersex, asexual, pansexual, and more. In the Philippines, you might also hear “SOGIE” (Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity and Expression) used in discussions about diversity and anti-discrimination.
Sexual Orientation vs. Gender Identity
Sexual orientation refers to who you’re emotionally and/or physically attracted to.
Gender identity refers to your internal sense of your own gender, which may or may not match the sex you were assigned at birth.
These are separate aspects of identity—a person of any gender can have any sexual orientation.
Sexual Orientation Terms
Lesbian
A woman who is emotionally and/or physically attracted to other women. Some Filipinas may use this term alongside or instead of local terms like “tomboy” or “tibo.”
Gay
Someone who is emotionally and/or physically attracted to people of the same gender. In the Philippines, “gay” is often used specifically for men who are attracted to other men, though some women may also use this term.
Bisexual
A person who is emotionally and/or physically attracted to people of more than one gender. While traditionally defined as attraction to “both men and women,” many bisexual people recognize there are more than two genders.
Pansexual
A person who is attracted to people regardless of gender. Some prefer this term over bisexual to explicitly include attraction to non-binary people.
Asexual
A person who experiences little or no sexual attraction to others. Asexual people can still form deep emotional bonds and may desire romantic relationships without sexual components.
Gender Identity Terms
Transgender
An umbrella term for people whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. In the Philippines, local terms like “bakla” and “tomboy” have sometimes been used to describe transgender experiences, though they don’t exactly align with Western concepts of being transgender.
Non-binary
People whose gender identity doesn’t fit exclusively into “male” or “female” categories. They may identify as both, neither, or their gender may be fluid (changing over time).
Cisgender
A person whose gender identity aligns with the sex they were assigned at birth. For example, someone born male who identifies as a man.
Other Important Terms
Queer
An umbrella term embraced by many who don’t identify as heterosexual or cisgender. Once considered derogatory, it has been reclaimed by many in the LGBTQ+ community. However, some still find it offensive, so it’s best used by those who identify with it.
Coming Out
The process of accepting and sharing one’s LGBTQ+ identity with others. This isn’t a one-time event but a lifelong process that happens in different contexts and relationships.
SOGIE
Stands for Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity, and Expression. This term is commonly used in Philippine advocacy and proposed anti-discrimination legislation.
Filipino Context and Considerations
Traditional Filipino Terms
Bakla: Traditionally refers to male-assigned people who express femininity and may be attracted to men. This term encompasses aspects of both gender expression and sexuality and doesn’t exactly translate to Western concepts like “gay” or “transgender.”
Tomboy/Tibo: Often used for female-assigned people who express masculinity and may be attracted to women. Like “bakla,” this term blends concepts of gender expression and sexuality.
Transpinay/Transpinoy: Filipino terms for transgender women and men, respectively, combining “trans” with “Pinay” (Filipina) or “Pinoy” (Filipino).
Cultural Considerations
The Philippines has a unique cultural context that influences how LGBTQ+ identities are understood:
- Family-centered values: In Filipino culture, family acceptance is often especially important to LGBTQ+ individuals.
- Religious influence: With a predominantly Catholic population, religious beliefs often impact attitudes toward LGBTQ+ people.
- Evolving language: Younger Filipinos may use global LGBTQ+ terminology, while older generations might be more familiar with traditional Filipino terms.
Supporting LGBTQ+ Youth
For parents, here are some ways to support your child:
- Listen without judgment: Create space for your child to express themselves honestly.
- Educate yourself: Learning about LGBTQ+ identities shows your commitment to understanding.
- Respect privacy: Let your child decide when and with whom to share their identity.
- Connect with resources: Organizations like Love Yourself provide support for LGBTQ+ Filipinos.
- Remember that love comes first: Your child is still the same person you’ve always loved.
For young people exploring their identity:
- Take your time: There’s no rush to figure everything out or choose labels.
- Find community: Connect with LGBTQ+ organizations or online groups for support.
- Prioritize safety: Consider your personal circumstances when deciding whether, when, and how to come out.
Learning about LGBTQ+ identities starts with respect and open communication. Every family can take small steps to show love, listen, and support their loved ones, just as they are.
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